Reads is a place of information that I found out throughout my life, whether it stems from meeting people or from thinking a little too hard about certain things.
Some information might be very obvious, while other not so much. It depends on you and how you see life.
Through some thinking I found out that I like to identify with the name "Moon" more than with my real name.
The reason is that I don't just find it beautiful but the moon as a symbol can represent traits that fit to my personality quite well. I won't list all of them here obviously, it would be too much input and too personal, but the core idea is that my name's just a title my parents have given me.
They never thought nor could they know, what kind of person I will be later in life. Every name has a meaning and origin and the meaning of my real name never really fit to me as a person. I found out that I prefer a different name and that I only let people who are very close to me, call me “Moon” in private.
So why don't we all just find a name that we like and want to have, one that we identify with? It helped me with being more in touch with my personality than before.
We know it all, we have such a boring day so we decide to scroll, or eat and gain more weight, but we never use our time to pursue a hobby.
Boredom can be very annoying and frustrating but it also leads to creativity and can give us new ideas. Ideas that we can invest into our hobbies or that lead us to try new ones. I used to avoid boredom as much as possible, even demonizing it at some point but it's not really that bad. If you're bored, it means you have it good in life. You could be doing some nerve wracking labor right now but instead you have time to chill.
The creativity aspect and knowing this, both make boredom more appealing to me and hopefully to you as well. Try to use it for your advantage instead of rotting in it.
There will always be someone better, stronger, faster or smarter. If we try to be the best but don't succeed, we only start to doubt our own abilities and sometimes even stop doing it entirely, because we compare ourselves to someone entirely different to us.
Just because you're a human like them, doesn't mean you need to be them.
We all fight with addictions, we all had them at some point and we all have them right now. We all share some sort of pain and guilt that we carry with us every day.
Humans are flawed creatures because they can get addicted to so many different things - we even use it to exploit fellow humans for our wealth and happiness. So it's also normal to have a hard time to break free from it...
I kept thinking that relapsing destroys all the progress I made but that's not true. The dicipline you showed up to this point happened and can't be taken back, so don't act like it never happened. This also applies to your relapsing but as long as you learn from it, and you still show signs of guilt, it means that you really want to change. So it's not lost, it's human to be this way, it's human to relapse and feel bad about it.
Breathe, take your time, distract yourself with something relaxing, like a shower or bath, or talk yourself out to someone you can trust. You can also make a journal that nobody needs to read. You can also destory the page or file that you've written on, after you're done if you're too worried that someone will see it. Just don't forget your progress, don't try to change what happened because it's unchangeable and it already happened.
Instead; show yourself and the people you promised to change, the change with actions instead of words. It will be okay again!
The quote “Be yourself” seems like good advice since we heard it a lot and might think that there's truth to it, but we should always consider that someone who's an asshole, can use this advice to keep being an asshole and play down their shitty behavior.
“Be yourself” is also a different way of saying “Stay the same and never change your mind”. If you're not well mentally and you start to think that your illness is who you are, you can get the idea that “being yourself” is a good idea, since everyone around you tries to talk you out of it and tries to change who you are, but this is not the truth and this isn't really who you are or who you could be instead. It's a mind trap.
Stop using advice like this, instead you should say “Become your best self” but it's not meant as a “Try to be the best in everything you do and pressure yourself to death”, mistakes are important for the learning process.
The amount of people that use “Grow up”, to make others look stupid is simply insane. So many people use this nowadays, especially older people who think they've eaten wisdom with a spoon.
When will people start realizing that keeping your inner child alive, does not make you a childish person but someone who still has a sense of wonder and who isn't afraid to have fun from time to time? As long as you don't overdo it, then who cares? Who are you to tell me what I'm supposed to be just because you get annoyed so easily?
Maybe the irony here is that those who use this quote oftentimes, aren't better people themselves and don't know how to be more mature.
Whenever someone calls someone else a “fool” I always wonder if they even know what a fool is. Almost everyone will say, that a fool is someone who does unwise and stupid things. But are you so sure about this?
My idea is that the fool himself can be able to break rules and cross boundaries, that you wouldn't even think about breaking or crossing, which then can lead to new insights and ideas.
Maybe the fool is wise enough to do unwise things, that bring fresh air and some chaos into our lives. They are able to see everything else from a different perspective. I'm thinking about some sort of rebel in this case.
Of course this can also be put in a negative way but let's think positive about this for a while, since everything we humans do can also be done for bad. What if a fool is actually just someone who listens to their intuition and makes decisions that can lead to good outcomes. I'm speaking about lesser risky things, less deadly things, but things that aren't really too bad to break but people don't bother breaking, thanks to their fear of authority and punishments.
A very silly example would be modern online pirates that pirate software, music, movies and shows. We can't really depend on big corporations to preserve their classics for us, modern online piracy can help us in preserving those things we love, like our favorite game, piece of music or movie.
Yes it's against the law and yes we can argue whether risking a sentence in prison is worth the effort but without online piracy, we wouldn't be able to watch banned, blocked or lost media that nobody would care to preserve or that nobody can watch in a certain part of the world, thanks to restrictions.
Is it so foolish to do something for a greater good? If one sits down, another one stands up. The fool can cause avalanches of change, and change is very important to us. But we should also be careful with this way of thinking as it can be used, like many things, to play down dangerous and reckless behavior.
Porn can make us think about people in a completely different way, to a point where we only sexualize them and don't value them for the people they are.
Knowing this won't even help, what helps is to stop consuming it entirely since it makes no difference whether you're addicted or not. You will see people in a different way and this can ruin relationships faster than you think, even if you think you did everything right up to this point.
What's really dangerous is that it can also cause you to develop even extremer kinks and fetishes until even they aren't enough to satisfy you, so you watch even extremer stuff, which can also lead to the urge to watch illegal things. At this point you really need to seek help professionally.
People use loneliness as an excuse for watching porn but porn and loneliness is a very bad combination. You start to think that people want you for your looks, your body, your sexual organ. You start to behave less civilized, tend to send nudes pretty quickly and wonder why this one random girl blocked you because you asked what her breast size is.
It's really not worth it, no matter what you feel in that moment. Porn is made to be consumed and easily accessible and not to be realistic and emotional - it's free because people know you will come back and make them rich by visiting their lust filled site tomorrow.
I can't see it anymore, this debate whether women are more needed than men or men more needed than women. We both are needed, we both need each other to reproduce, no matter how much you say your "Science made it possible to..."-argument.
I am aware that women can be complicated, sometimes overly emotional and men can be emotionless creeps, but that doesn't mean that women can't be emotionless creeps and men can't be overly emotional. We never bat an eye when someone isn't like the stereotypes say, because a creepy woman is suddenly someone "who seeks affection" while an overly emotional man is just someone who "needs to man up".
I also understand that some stereotypes can be true in some cases but that doesn't mean that everyone is suddenly the same because they share the same sex. Throwing everyone under the bus because they either have a penis or a vagina is so ridiculous. This mental seperation (as I call it) between men and women, already starts while they're still babies. Your mom and your dad both influence how you act based on how much they trust you with certain tasks or problems. Same thing with the toys they buy you.
At the core we are both the same, some just have different chracter traits than the others and that is good and okay but we shouldn't trauma dump on a whole sex for what happened to us. A trauma that was caused by that one person who happens to have the same sex as half the population of the human race.
I'm not a philosopher nor a politician, I'm a 21 year old who just can't stop thinking about certain topics, whether I know how to explain myself or not. So don't expect something wise coming from my mouth. I will say a few things about money that I think are true. If you have a different opinion or want to put me in a certain political corner, go for it. I'm not enough into politics to care about that. All I want is to talk about an issue that is so obvious that we all look away and ignore it, until we experience it ourselves and it's downsides.
Money is nothing more than colorful paper that we printed a few numbers on and applied a value to. And this colorful paper is the reason we love to betray each other, let others fall into addictions that can end their lives and strip any creativity and wonder from any creation there is, since all of it will and can be monetized. The worst thing of all is how many people we have killed for this colorful paper, how many had to die, how many wars were started, how many animals died from pollution. Those are numbers that we can't comprehend, we killed people that are long forgotten, all for money and it's upsetting to think about.
I hate that we justify all of this behavior over the simple argumentation, that "money is useful for trade" or that "it's everywhere anyway, so why care?". I don't know, maybe the thought of me being wiped from the earth's surface over some paper that has no value besides the one we think it has, is kind of upsetting? But maybe I'm just too empathetic to think about it this way, who knows?
The thing that prevents people from starving is wasting some colorful paper on basic needs like food, water and a safe shelter that keeps you away from the harsh weather and crazy people. Things that should be free as it is important for our well being, for survival - but it isn't free and it will never be free, because other people always want to gain something from your suffering even without thinking too much about it.
"Oh but it's so much better than hunting for food in the wild, with all the diseases". We still get diseases, we still have to "fight" for food, just in a different way. But just because it's more civilized doesn't mean it's suddenly a solved issue. Poverty still exists, people still starve, you don't see it because you're already out of breath because you can't watch another episode of your favorite series on Netflix. Of course you don't starve, instead you rather die to overweight than starvation. This is this typical "I don't see it so it doesn't exist" argument.
I just wish we had an alternative to money, something that is less cruel and can't be used to support crime and gangstas, corrupt politicians and greedy businesses. Because so far all we did was ignoring it, "just concentrate on your own mental health and look away". Like it fixes anything...
But there's nothing we can do. Nobody has thought of a good idea ever since and even if, how do we apply it? The best we can do so far, as individual people, is to realize that money only gets you so far but it won't make you less lonely and miserable. It will only fuel your greed, you want more and more like you're in an addiction and at some point you fall deep after you climbed up too far. It's what happens to all of us, so we should appreciate life for what it is and not for the doom-bringing ideas we humans created to make ourselves crazy.
In the end it's really just an illusion, no matter if it works or not. And we should be more careful with this realization.
